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“I
just remember the fear”
A woman who survived a bullet to
the head describes the abuse her husband used to break her spirit, and how she
survived his attempt to kill her.
For 13 years, Therese D’Encarnacao stayed with her husband through the
biting insults and accusations: You’re fat. You’re ugly. Nobody else will want
you. She stayed through the times he hit her. She stayed through his chronic
health problems and depression and unemployment. She stayed until the day Keith
Eddinger walked into their long, narrow master bathroom and pointed a gun at
her head. He calmly shot her between the eyes. Then he killed himself. At
first, Keith was a gentleman, a welder who shared her love of fishing and
camping. He took an interest in her young son. And an interest in her. Fresh from
a failed marriage to her high school sweetheart, Therese desperately wanted
someone to love her. So for 13 years, she endured the abuse, partly out of
hope, largely out of fear. When she finally told her husband she wanted out,
Keith got his gun.
Very real fear
Why do women stay in — and return to — abusive relationships, even
until their deaths? The question is central to helping them. And the fact that
women do stay so often provides a convenient excuse to blame victims rather
than the men who pull triggers (or knives or fists). A lack of understanding
prompts many, lawmakers included, to turn their backs on the pervasive, deadly
problem. It’s not a simple question to answer. Experts and survivors both
describe an all-ensnaring web of hope, culture, dependence, fear, religion and
even love that binds women to their abusers. But mostly it comes down to what
he controls — which often is everything, even her life. The late state Rep.
John Graham Altman sparked a furor in 2005 when he told a reporter that domestic
violence victims are at fault if they return to their abusers. He had just been
asked why the House Judiciary Committee wanted to make cockfighting a felony
but tabled a bill that would have done the same for domestic violence.
“The woman ought to not be around the man,” Altman said. “I mean you
women want it one way and not another. Women want to punish the men, and I do
not understand why women continue to go back around men who abuse them. And
I’ve asked women that and they all tell me the same answer, ‘John Graham, you
don’t understand.’ And I say, ‘You’re right, I don’t understand.’” He’s not
alone.
Many people don’t realize that when a woman tries to leave, or press
charges, she is in the most danger she will face. Lees hier verder.
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